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INTUITIVE COUNSELING

Intuitive Counseling is for those who want to explore their Consciousness. What does it mean to ‘explore your Consciousness?’

It means you want to scratch the itch of your beingness. It means these words will make sense to you as you read them. ‘Consciousness,’ calls to you as you are reaching toward it. It means you want to wake-up from something, whatever ‘waking-up’ means to you.

Your ‘consciousness,’ describes your state of awareness, or wakefulness.  Expanding Consciousness, is the awakening experience of growing Consciousness.

Who cares?  Why is this important?

What we think/feel/believe right now, are placeholders for what we will believe someday. We are always, growing, into something else.  We are always becoming.

Our consciousness applies to our entire lives.  With everything we do we are engaging with our Consciousness. As our consciousness shifts, our lives/experiences/relationships shift. With this work we’re connecting the spiritual with the practical.

We work with our Consciousness. Consciousness is the art of understanding Self and our journey of being human.  We talk about childhood, but we’re talking about Cosmos. We talk about love, but we’re talking about call of Soul.

WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL STICKY?      WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL FREE?       WHAT IS YOUR EDGE…?

Intuitive Counseling is an ongoing relationship where we work together as you might with a traditional therapist. As your guide, I listen to how your Life is living you.  We work toward your goals while we acknowledge together what wants to make itself visible to you, in its own time.  As things are unfolding I help you live a life you recognize as your own.

You are a magnificent ever changing, ever growing, ever evolving being with limitless potential. Potential is about who you’re becoming, and is also about the eternal moment of who you already are.

 *First session is free. 
*We get to know each other, we see if we’re a good match in how we communicate.
*Subsequent sessions are 60-90 minutes.
*No minimum requirement of sessions.
*In person, phone, skype.
*Rates vary.  Please inquire. 

LIFE COACHING

Life Coaching is most powerful when one wants to create structure in their lives as a means of reaching particular goals.

Coaching can jumpstart ones life out of patterns and habits into utilizing ones time decisively to achieve New Ways of Being and relating. It can work fast and specifically.  Life Coaching is a 6-10 week commitment during which time you will be responsible for enacting a Coaching Plan we agree on together.

Life Coaching can be rigorous, and is meant to be juuuust pushy enough.

COACHING INVITES YOU OUT OF COMFORT ZONES INTO NEW POSSIBILITIES.

There will be weekly meetings or calls and bi-weekly check in’s.  You will have daily and weekly practices, exercises, and assignments, as well as goals to meet, all of which are cumulative and part of the larger plan we have put in place for you.

Life Coaching is part trust in the coach, and part disciplined, pragmatic, implementation of the Coaching Plan. If the plan is followed change will occur. If not, change will be delayed. It is for highly motivated individuals who are self-starters and like the rigor that comes with taking an immediate juming-in- kind of action.

*First session is free.
*We get to know each other, we determine if coaching is the best approach.
*Sessions are 60-90 minutes.
*Minimum 6 session requirement.
*In person, phone, skype sessions available.
*Rates vary.  Please inquire.

NON-TRADITIONAL RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING

WHAT IS A NON-TRADITIONAL RELATIONSHIP?

What do we mean by non-traditional relationship? Good question, good start, lots of questions to follow:

A non-traditional relationship is any kind of relationship and/or way of relating to ones partner or spouse other than as happens in a traditionally committed way, i.e. ‘marriage’ as is most clearly defined by a monogamous physical and emotional interaction.

Right?   So….

The ground of ‘any-other-kind-of-relationship,’ is vast. People relate to each other in all kinds of ways. As your guide, I focus on the ‘relationship’ part of ‘non-traditional,’ meaning I take seriously the person I’m working with who considers themselves to be in the relationship they consider themselves to be in.

A ‘relationship’ can mean anything from a long term traditional marriage, to friends with benefits, to any version of a relating that involves conversations of extra-relational attraction, couples wanting to swing or explore sexual openness, polyamory, sanctioned infidelity, emotional non-monogamy, etc.  It’s a big conversation.

Let’s slow down.

The point is you get to be you in whatever way you are experiencing you. It’s all okay. It’s just that we don’t often talk about ‘outside’ attractions or feelings because there’s not a lot of context to do so.

But, is it fair to say most of us us probably do have attractions to people other than their partners? Maybe so.  Or, maybe not. Do you? Does your partner? We’re all human. We’re all different.

We, each of us, deserves to be respected for where we are on our path.

Here are some examples of ways in which people non-traditionally relate to themselves.

I am:

  1. Heteroflexible
  2. Homoflexible
  3. Ambisexual
  4. Homosexual
  5. Bi-sexual
  6. Flexamorous
  7. Queer

How I non-traditionally think of my partner and relationship.

I am:

  1. Open
  2. Polyamorous
  3. Monogamish
  4. A Swinger
  5. A Don’t Ask and Don’t Tell type-
person
  6. Ethically Non-monogamous
  7. A Primary Partner/Non-Primary Partner dynamic

These lists are by no means exhaustive. They tend to be popular categories that can be researched and read about in more depth, to give you somewhere to start.

But more often than not, you will have to make-up your own category, define your own definition in order to get to the heart of how you would best like to express your most comfortable identity and version of relationship.

A LITTLE CONTEXT:

I have been engaged in some form of non-traditional relationship for as far back as 2008. I have been talking with couples about their non-traditional relationships….for-ever.  Life, has been a tremendous learning curve.

Among the most important things I’ve learned is there are no clear definitions, no well-trod boundaries, no tried and true ways of doing things. There is no ‘right’ in a non-traditional arrangement.

There is only what feels right to you.

Each person needs to find for themselves what best meets their needs and what best serves their relationship.

But there are lots of great questions to ask and inquiries to have and curiosities to explore. It is an illuminating conversation.

COUNSELING FOR INDIVIDUALS AND COUPLES:

The world of non-traditional relationships is achieving national notoriety right now, Newsweek, The New York Times, major publications acknowledging for the first time that people are living and exploring relationships in non-traditional ways.  Of course people have always explored in non-traditional ways, but it is finally possible to have the conversation out loud.

We haven’t had it before now because our tendency as a culture is to fall back on what we ‘know,’ what feels safe and familiar, meanwhile projecting our hurt and confusion on to one another, on to our friends and partners.

As we ‘open-up,’ it’s so important to understand what is ‘my stuff’ and what is ‘my partners stuff,’ so real conversations can happen.  One of my primary jobs as a counselor is to faciliate these conversations and help make clear distinctions.

If you happen to already be down the road of a non-traditional relationships, your experience helps quite a bit. But things also build-up over time; unspoken hurts, quiet resentments, things you may be feeling ‘aren’t allowed to felt’ because you’re open, or because you have an agreement in place. Our counseling relationship creates a container where all of this can be talked about safely and openly.

Good communication is crucial in any relationship, but even more so if you’re going to take on the very difficult areas of jealousy, possession, control, rejection, and abandonment, some of the core wounds of the human experience.

I will help you to hear what your partner is wanting to communicate. I will also help take the pressure off of you having to say everything ‘right,’ so you can simply speak from your heart, or from your anger, or from wherever you’re authentically at.

We will unpack challenging areas, and shed light on parts of yourself and relationship you may be having difficulty accepting.

My style of counseling is engaging and direct, and possibly challenging, as I invite you to consider new behaviors, new ways of communicating, and showing up to yourself and one another with center, confidence, and possibility.

Here are some things I ask you to consider before we meet:

  1. What is Healthy Communication?
  2. What does it mean to have an ‘Agreement?’
  3. What are Boundaries
?
  4. What does it mean to ‘meet’ my partner
?
  5. How do I share authentically with family and friends
?
  6. What does it mean to me to be Ethical? What is Transparency?
  7. How do I keep my eye on the ball of my partner?